In this final post of our three part series on examining body peace, it is time to acknowledge that our intentions have always been good.
Your intentions have always been good.
Not a one of us, when we were small, dreamed of growing up to hate our bodies. I know I didn’t!
While in other blogs I may write from a more objective, clinical space to help you better understand medical complexities in layman’s terms, in this series I am speaking to you directly from the heart.
I want you to know that I, too, had great intentions even while my eating disorder was getting worse and worse, and even when I feared I wouldn’t survive it. At no time in my journey to where I am today was I trying to develop a life threatening disease. I wasn’t trying to kill off my body. I wasn’t trying to worry those around me. I wasn’t trying to fail at life or destroy my potential to live it.
I developed my eating disorder for two reasons. One, I had a biological predisposition to do so. And two, I experienced a variety of environmental triggers that in turn triggered my own inner survival mechanism to control what was within my power – my own body.
The path to body peace often makes several detours along the way, but there is never a lack of good intentions. In fact, after more than two decades of serving and supporting individuals to move from the dangers of an eating disorder and low body esteem back to the holistic health and wellness they desire and deserve, I can state with the utmost confidence that I have not yet met a person struggling with body dissatisfaction and eating disorders who didn’t have good intentions.
We mean well. We truly do. We are trying to make sense of a complex world full of complex choices and complex people. We are incredibly strong, and even while enduring experiences that might level others, we survivors have found a way to survive.
Now, it may be that the way we survived such experiences in the past no longer works for us now, but that does not take away from the fact that we survived them – somehow.
Again, we had the best of intentions.
So now, to seek and achieve body peace, it is time to re-examine our intentions in light of the new information we have that what we did yesterday or last year or ten years ago to survive is no longer the only or best option we have. It is no longer the path we wish to choose to get to where we want to go.
We are ready to try something new.
Knowing this, we can now make a new intention to choose a different path than an eating disorder or body dissatisfaction to manage life’s stressors.
For instance, we can choose to seek help, and in so doing we can choose to work on the intentions beneath our intention to survive, which may include our intention to thrive, to love, to succeed, to connect, to experience, to accept ourselves and others as we are, to serve and give and also receive and appreciate all that life has to offer.
Again, these intentions have never changed – and they never will.
All that has changed is the path we now choose to get there.
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