Your “Say Yes to Life” Monday Motivator: Staying Away From the Borderline

May is Borderline Personality Disorder Month. This month, in honor of this important topic, we began a new blog series that focuses on the nuts and bolts of borderline personality disorder (BPD), and each week in May we will address a different aspect of recovery from this highly treatable disorder.

This week, we look at the role of the professional in the recovery process.

Perhaps no other disorder has been so extensively misunderstood, misdiagnosed, or misrepresented as BPD, so much so that mental health professionals are often reluctant or downright resistant to working with BPD sufferers. “I stay away from the borderlines,” one professional was heard to say at a recent conference.

Three decades ago, before the creation of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) by Dr. Marsha Linehan, a response like this would have been more than understandable. However, in light of all the resources professionals have at their disposal today to treat BPD sufferers, hearing this at a conference in 2010 is puzzling.

BPD is essentially a disorder of relationships. As such, understanding the nuts and bolts of how the disease arises and what sufferers need to overcome its effects can go a long way towards reducing stigma and offering sufferers the type of professional treatment they need to get better.

According to the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (NEA for BPD), representative BPD symptoms include:  fears of abandonment, intense mood shifts, impulsivity, problems with anger, recurrent suicidal behaviors or self-injurious behaviors, and patterns of unstable and intense relationships that often create chaos in the lives of sufferers and their families.

In short, individuals with DBT can’t stand to be with themselves, inside their own intensely emotionally-charged skins, but through their behaviors they often recreate the very relational abandonment they fear, which exacerbates their symptoms, and so on and so on. It is thought that the stage is set for BPD, which is often diagnosed in early adulthood and primarily in females, through early emotional invalidation with a possible genetic biological component.

What is most important for professionals to know, however, is that it is highly treatable.

Even with this awareness however, one initial challenge treating professionals will face is to separate out BPD symptoms from other frequently co-occurring disorders. As the NEA for BPD reports, borderline symptoms rarely occur in isolation, and are frequently exacerbated by other concerns such as substance abuse, eating disorders, depression, anxiety, and bipolar disorder. While individuals suffering from BPD symptoms are often medicated, it is also important to know that no medication has been specifically approved for use to treat BPD symptoms as of yet.

Additionally, there are many ways in which the core symptoms of BPD can manifest, and those symptoms may vary based on each individual’s background, life experience, and prior treatment experiences. With an estimated 2% of the population suffering from BPD symptoms, it can quickly become a source of professional frustration to find one method to treat so many individual cases.

This is where Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) comes in. Dr. Marsha Linehan, the founder of DBT, categorized the six major categories of BPD symptoms into four skills-building modules. These four core modules include Mindfulness, Emotion Regulation, Distress Tolerance, and Interpersonal Effectiveness. DBT, while used today to treat a variety of mood-based disorders, was created specifically to treat individuals with borderline symptoms, and is scientifically proven to be a highly effective and lasting treatment approach.

Dr. Linehan’s goal when developing DBT was not to separate out, categorize, and individually address all 200+ permutations of the core BPD symptoms. Rather, she aimed to – and succeeded at – identifying instead the four core areas of coping skills that were missing from each BPD sufferer’s internal life coping toolkit. BPD sufferers all struggle to maintain mindfulness about who they are and how they fit in with others. BPD sufferers all wrestle with regulating their emotions and managing feelings of distress. BPD sufferers all have trouble developing trust-based, healthy relationships with themselves and with others in their lives.

In summary, BPD sufferers can all benefit from the four core modules taught through DBT.

For sufferers, loved ones, and referring or treating professionals, DBT is a bright light of practical hope amidst the darkness of a struggle against BPD symptoms.

At Southlake Counseling, we have more than two decades of clinical expertise in treating individuals with BPD symptoms through our DBT outpatient programs. Our combination of individual and group support, with additional phone support if necessary, puts BPD sufferers on the road to lasting recovery. We are happy to talk with loved ones and referring professionals about how DBT skills-building treatment can positively intervene in the life of someone struggling with BPD. We have expertise with adolescents, females, and males and offer individual and group support for individuals at each stage of the recovery process. Visit us at – we look forward to hearing from you.

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