Uncertainty is a large part of life and can make it seem full of what-ifs. But, we can’t live in the what-ifs; we have to live in the moment. Oftentimes, it can be difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but, trust me, it’s definitely there.
Here are 3 habits that help you create lasting happiness in uncertain times.
- Connection is a Powerful Happiness Habit: As humans, we’re inherently social, which means we crave interaction with others. Keeping up with friends, colleagues, and extended family is a great way to create lasting happiness. Plan a night out with friends to catch up and laugh at old times. Remembering how silly you were as a child is a great way to laugh and forget the worries of the day. If you’re making new friends, use this time to really get to know each other and create memories that will last a lifetime.
- Self-Care is Key to Happiness: How can you be happy if you’re not taking care of yourself? This doesn’t just mean a proper diet and exercise; it also means getting enough sleep and setting boundaries with others. If you can’t do something for someone else, it’s okay to say no and not feel guilty about it. It also means doing something for yourself. In today’s busy world, it’s important to take time for ourselves. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time and it doesn’t have to cost a dime. You can go on a bike ride, hike through the forest, lose yourself in a good book, and so on. Okay, well, the book might cost you a little more than a dime but you’re worth it!
- Resolving Conflicts with Others: We’re all well aware that conflict is yet another fact of life. We’ve all had conflicts in our lives, but how we resolve them is important to creating lasting happiness. How many of you have felt, at one time or another, that someone has taken advantage of you? I think we’ve all felt like that at some point, but you need to realize that you can be kind without having people walk all over you (ahem, see the paragraph above about setting boundaries). You have every right to say how you feel but I encourage you to use “I” messages (and I’m not talking about sending a text from your iPhone). An example of an “I” message is “I feel like __________ when you ___________.” You’re telling the other person how you feel without placing blame on them.
If you follow these three habits, you’ll be on your way to creating lasting happiness in uncertain times. Just remember, you are the only person responsible for your happiness; it can’t be bought and it doesn’t depend on others. Happiness is a state of mind. Be happy, my friends, and always love the beautiful person you are!